Setting the Stage
This is an important part of making sweet love to a lady. The room should be dimly lit, but enough light that you can see each other. Music is an excellent addition to any SexyTime™ evening with your lady. Here is an example of a great playlist you can use.

SexyTime Playlist

Discussing wardrobe options with your lady is great sexy conversation during dinner. This is a perfect opportunity for you to listen to what turns your lady on and for her to listen to your turn ons. Remember to keep eye contact with your lady as this is a wonderful elixir to mind blowing SexyTime™.

Foreplay
I have been accused of acting like a guy more than once in bed. I have a guy brain that thinks, “Pussy, ME WANT PUSSY”. Ladies are very complicated. They are not simple in what gets them going and it changes from moment to moment. It is a delicate dance to keep it all together; especially if you fail to connect with all your ladies desires. Slow it down and begin to sync up with your lady.

Kissing
Ladies are more sensory than media gives them credit. Their sensory is more sensual; where touch, breathe and contact can be the most pleasure in the world or the worst nightmare in a blink. Kissing is the key to bringing the sensitivity to the surface. Soft kisses on her face and lips. Slow, soft, wet kisses while you breath your hot breath slowly on her neck. Make sure to not heavily breath on her (i.e. heave). Ladies do not like heaving from jump street. If you are heaving she needs to be in a nirvana where she can’t hear you. Make sure your tongue is soft and lazy as you kiss your lady. No poking and choking your lady with your tongue. This is a turnoff unless you are fucking Jenny from the club and well she is no lady.

The Fingers
This is a completely underrated skill. I can with one finger open up another universe. Before you ever touch your lady with your fingers, practice keeping your wrist loose to ensure you will master this technique. You take your one or two fingers and softly touch her clit in soft circular motions and make sure you are kissing her neck or lips during clitoral stimulation. Slip your fingers in gently, and begin slowly going in a circular “up” motion. The “come-hither” does not work for every girl. You will know you have hit her G-Spot by either feeling a sponge like surface or a swollen surface that is right at the front inside of her vagina. Make sure to handle her G-Spot with extra care. You can begin quickening the motion and going to the rhythm of her body. Here is a video that demonstrates the technique.

Fingers from Stealingkitty on Vimeo.

This completes this installment. Next time, we tackle cunninlingus and the art of making sweet love to your ladies vagina… with your tongue.