Growing up After 40 :: The Real Girls Guide

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Elegance is not the prerogative of those who have just escaped from adolescence, but of those who have already taken possession of their future.-Coco Chanel

Lately, I have to wonder if we ever grow up. More importantly, if I will ever grow. Recently, I posted on my Facebook, “Dear internets, I need a mommy to look after my inner child. She has kind of made a mess of my life”. The truth of that statement loudly ringing reality. I have these growing pains that start in my heart and end in my limbs collapsing to the ground in a give up.

The distractions of my mind, the reaching for things that are not there, the sitting in the silence is starting to unravel this reality I never want to face. Time to grow up little girl and take care of important things in your life. Compartmentalize the tasks in order to not get overwhelmed in the “too much”. Business experience has taught me this well; my surrogate parent, guiding me into building a better life for myself.

There are these people out there living their grown up lives at 40 and then there is me, the girl-woman living like her parents are out of the country for an extended stay and currently running on empty. The messed up thing about it all is there is no one to blame, no fit to throw, only me and this mess and the wonderment of what is to be.

Building it up one box at time. Nice colorful boxes in order to understand it all and not make more of a mess. The green box for growing things, the red box for sexy or dangerous things, the white box for clean things, big boxes all in a row building towards a more complete me. I need to remember to look before I place things in these boxes. Gleam the lessons from each box and apply them to my life in practice. Boxing self-help, one color at time. The horror of it all really.

Growing up is a heavy subject weighted with personal integrity, responsibility, empathy, and I suppose humility. What I have learned this week, there is no issue too big to handle and that everything you need to manage your life is available. It is the giving up of my wants for awhile to get the things I need which will allow this little grow up inside of me reach it’s full adult potential. Wonder no more and brave the unknown with courage.